Healing Arts

And then there are moments in which the need is neither to give or take – but to feel your presence and offer you mine.

To say, I am here, I see that you exist, that your life is.

I am your witness.

…and in that moment, I exist.

Witness

Whoever said relationships are not easy was lying.

They are.  They should be. EASY.

It’s working on yourself that is hard.  It’s working on your own reactions and misdemeanors that is the biggest challenge.

How you judge how another person behaves, or whether or not that person conforms to your expectations is about YOU not about them.

The essential ingredient to all loving relationships is our capacity to stride the very delicate line between attachment and letting go.

Attachment is in essence, our neediness.

Lets face it, we are needy.

When it comes to wanting the feeling of being loved, approved of, cared for, needed, looked up to or whatever, it’s to relationships we turn.

The letting go part is about wanting what is best for the other person (and this does NOT contradict what is best for you in ANY way).

Letting go, is about releasing the expectations we carry that the other person is there for the sole purpose of fulfilling our needs.

It’s about a deep, deep knowing that it’s up to us to love, to give, to share what we can from a place of abundance, expecting nothing in return, except the gift of expansion.

Because when we love deeply, unconditionally, that is when the heart expands.  And when it expands, it opens to receiving.

It is when we cannot find it within ourselves to love this unconditional love – that is when we have to walk away.

Because that is what is best, for her, for him, for both.

Because every single one of us is lovable and loving. and if that was not the case, you would not find yourself mangled in an emotional knot, in the first place.

It is the love that brought you here.  Now the work is about knowing your own limitations, your own boundaries – your own neediness. And loving yourself despite these.

So when it comes to giving and taking, demands are just means of control.

Control is simply neediness manifested in bullying, rule-making, imposition of lines and borders.

Negotiation is a means by way of control, and power is bartered and allocated.

Love will die when the parties are in it for control.
It will strangle and suffocate.

In a situation of conflict, demands imposed and expectations strewn, ask yourself this:

What are my own expectations in this situation?  How do i want to control this interaction?
Breathe and release.  Breathe and release.

Be free to love. Be free to share. Be free to give. Be free to receive… and be patient.

Attachment and letting go

There is plenty of time to focus on me, in this moment, let me think of you.

There is plenty of space for my expansion, I will move over so that you can grow.

There are plenty of moments of joy and pleasure, let’s savor this one together.

My cup runneth over and I want to share it with you.

Abundance

If I put my trust in the hands of Love,

Then why do I cringe, curl or twist?

If I put my life at Your doorstep,

What is in me that does resist?

If I loosen my grip and slowly let go,

Why do my fingers cling with fear?

If I call Your name and seek You near,

Why do I doubt that You will hear?

Help me take the path Unseen,

The road is sometimes dimly lit.

I pray that beams of light may shine,

So I may stride with confidence.

Stride